Buddhism says that all of our life’s content…. its good things and its bad things, are due to our own doing….. growing out as fruit from our actions.
Not other persons actions………….. Not external situations…………. Our own actions….
Then there is Relationships…………….
In two persons life together… in their relationship, who can remember the first argument, the first hurt? Who was to blame? In their life together, who is to blame for the strife? Who started it?
How then can a finger be pointed?
If blaming never ends, then fighting never ends………..
Blaming creates strife………… Strife creates fighting and hard feelings……. hard feelings get stored for future strife…………..
We must let go of blaming other people, and also of blaming ourselves.
If we don’t let go of blaming, there will be neverending buildup in the storehouse of anger and disappointment. Even if that blame is inwards towards ourselves, it will be vented outwards, at someone on the outside. This is perhaps the basis of most mental illness in humans…..
Hurt….. and Retaliation
This storehouse of anger and disappointment will always be looking for a person or situation to blame, and when we find that scapegoat, it….. or they …. will get the full force of it.
Working towards Life without Blaming……….
Life is wonderful, but we don’t know it, because we fill all our time up blaming ourselves, and blaming other people.
We try to let go of Blame, but it doesn’t want to let go……
But………
Blaming does not have hold of you
It is you holding onto blame……
So………
Let it go.
Reality is Dharma 